What’s the get in giving?

redkettleguy

Here you go again. You’re running from store to store, buying baking supplies, twinkle lights, a “Frozen” Plush Olaf for your niece and flat screen TV for your husband. You’ve got to get home to bake 12 dozen pecan tarts for the neighborhood cookie exchange, when it dawns on you.

You forgot the butter.

For the second time today, you approach the irresistibly cute Salvation Army bell ringer outside the grocery store. You want to tell the sweet little old man freezing his bippy off in the name of the needy, “I gave earlier today,” but you know darned well he doesn’t remember and will think you’re a cheapskate. So you sort through the gum wrappers and bobby pins to see if you can find a few more quarters in your purse.

But you realize that you put all your coins in the kettle during your last trip to the store, so you look for a single or two, only to find that you’ve only got a five spot. With trembling hands you fork over the five dollar bill you were hoping to use for a Vente Skinny Peppermint Mocha Latte with extra sprinkles on the way home.

You intentionally hesitate with your hand over the red kettle, wanting the bell ringer and everyone else to see the denomination of your bill and think, “Wow, she gave five whole dollars.

“Thank you for your kindness,” the old man says, and you walk into the grocery feeling like Mother Teresa.

In fact you feel so charitable that you decide to buy a few canned goods, in addition to your stick of butter, to put in the food bank collection at the front of the store. And while you’re at it, you grab a whiffle ball set to put in the Toys for Tots box too.

With a sanctimonious flip of your wrist, you zip your debit card through the reader just as the cashier asks, “Would you like to give a dollar to the Orphaned Kittens’ Sweater Knitting Guild?” Seven other impatient customers are in line behind you. The baggers are waiting for your answer. The cashier is staring blankly into your eyes.

Dead silence.

Another dollar? Seriously? Don’t you remember that I just gave a dollar for the stinking kittens when I was in here an hour ago, for criminy’s sake? This is entrapment! Let someone else dress the orphaned kittens! I just want to buy this damned stick of butter and go home!

As you search your brain for a valid excuse to say “No thanks,” you contemplate the essence of giving.

Charitable organizations raise the bulk of their income between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Eve, when people are feeling generous. Salvation Army, for example, needs to collect $1.3 million this holiday season to fund its programs for the homeless and the poor, and they hope about $450,000 of that will be in donations to it’s iconic red kettles.

The US Marine Corps Reserve Toys for Tots Program collects toys in the months of October, November and December, to give to less fortunate youngsters as a message of hope to encourage them to become responsible, productive, patriotic citizens. Other national and local charities are collecting anything from money to canned goods to blankets to teddy bears for worthy causes.

Is giving about risking death by trampling to get the best bargain on an Xbox Assassin’s Creed Unity Bundle at Wal-Mart, or is it about providing for those who are truly in need?

“Absolutely,” you tell the cashier, realizing that the beauty of giving is that it is no bargain at all.

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Comments: 6

  1. energywriter December 12, 2014 at 10:12 am Reply

    Well, I messed up that comment. The quote marks are supposed to be after given. The rest is not spoken.

  2. energywriter December 12, 2014 at 10:10 am Reply

    Well done, Lisa. You said it so well.
    I feel creepy when I say, “I’ve already given when I pass a red bucket, even though I just dropped a $50 check into the mail.” They always say thank you, but I feel like they are saying “liar, liar, pants on fire,” under their breath.

  3. Behind the Story December 12, 2014 at 1:47 am Reply

    An excellent post, Lisa. The giving to loved ones and to those in need is a highlight of the Christmas season. I’m lucky to live in a neighborhood of 36 houses in which we all cooperate to sponsor several homeless families in December. Working together makes the joy of giving even more fulfilling. Merry Christmas.

  4. Michelle M. December 11, 2014 at 10:01 pm Reply

    Spot on as always Lisa! Merry Christmas!

    • Lisa Smith Molinari December 25, 2014 at 3:07 pm Reply

      Thanks Michelle!

  5. melissa martin ellis December 11, 2014 at 4:38 pm Reply

    One of your best columns, ever.

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